Financial Planning for Divorce 101: What to Do Before, During, and After Divorce

Going through a divorce can be one of life’s most challenging transitions. The financial complexities involved in the process don’t make it any easier. Effective divorce financial planning can make a world of difference, providing at least a little more clarity, stability, and hope for a secure future.

Whether you’re preparing to file, navigating the legal process, or rebuilding your life after a divorce, this guide offers compassionate, professional advice to support you during each stage of the process.

Before the Divorce: Laying a Strong Financial Foundation

When seeking financial advice in divorce, the first step is taking control of your finances even before filing for divorce, if possible. 

Many people feel overwhelmed by the unknowns—how assets will be divided, how they’ll meet living expenses, and what the future holds. By understanding the potential implications of divorce and separating financial responsibilities early, you can prepare for an independent future with confidence.

Steps to Take Before Filing for Divorce

Begin by gathering all essential financial documents for both spouses such as:

  • Bank and credit card statements
  • Tax returns from the last 3–5 years
  • Loan and mortgage agreements
  • Retirement account information
  • Insurance policies and investment portfolios

Next, take stock of your financial position by listing all joint and personal assets. This can include savings, checking, and investment accounts, real estate, vehicles, and personal property. 

It’s also important to consider any liabilities that have been incurred throughout the marriage, such as credit card debt, student loans, and mortgages. 

These records will be invaluable when assessing your financial position and negotiating a fair settlement.

Preparing for Divorce Checklist

A checklist can keep you focused and organized as you prepare for this significant change:

  • Compile all financial records.
  • Open a personal bank account separate from your spouse.
  • Start tracking your personal expenses to estimate future needs.
  • Assess the value of significant marital assets.
  • Seek legal and financial advice early to avoid costly mistakes.

Additionally, you’ll want to have a clear understanding of income and expenses in the household to help you estimate future financial needs. Even though you may not be exactly sure yet of your next steps, do your best to estimate what is most reasonable in terms of expenses like rent and utilities based on the area you live - or where you’d like to live, if you plan to move.

Compassionate Tip: Divorce is a time for self-reflection and preparation. Address financial challenges with patience, and seek expert guidance when needed. The Troncoso Group specializes in pre-divorce and post-divorce financial planning to provide clarity and support during this complex process.

During the Divorce: Managing Financial Complexity

One of the most contentious aspects of the process can be dividing property in a divorce. High-value items like real estate and pensions require careful handling to ensure equitable outcomes, but it’s not always easy to see things objectively from either side. This is where legal and financial experts can guide you to ensure that the division aligns with both legal standards and your long-term goals.

Even seemingly straightforward tasks like dividing household items can become emotionally charged, as they often hold sentimental value or represent memories of the life you shared with your spouse. These emotions can cloud judgment, making it difficult to reach agreements in a fair and efficient manner. 

In such cases, it’s important to prioritize practicality over sentiment. Consider making a list of items based on their practical value and necessity for your new life, and then discuss which items are most important to each of you. Acknowledge the emotional significance of certain possessions, but focus on creating a fair and balanced division.

How to Protect Your Assets During a Divorce

To protect your finances during the divorce process, you can do the following:

  • Separate joint accounts and open individual accounts.
  • Work with your attorney to freeze shared accounts if needed.
  • Monitor credit reports for any unusual activity.

Transparency is key — document all financial transactions carefully to ensure accountability for both sides throughout the legal process.

When it comes to ensuring minimum disruptions to your retirement planning, it helps to be familiar with the Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO). A QDRO is necessary when dividing assets from retirement plans that are governed by the Employee Retirement Income Security Act (ERISA), such as 401(k)s, pensions, or profit-sharing plans.

Without a QDRO, retirement assets are not automatically divided during divorce proceedings. A QDRO ensures that a portion of the retirement benefits is legally assigned to the non-employee spouse. Based on the type of retirement accounts that you both have, a QDRO may need to apply to ensure each spouse is compensated fairly.

After the Divorce: Rebuilding and Moving Forward

Once the divorce is finalized, it’s time to rebuild your financial life. Start by reassessing your budget to reflect your new circumstances. Include essentials like rent, childcare, and personal savings. 

If debts were divided as part of the settlement, create a repayment plan to avoid financial strain and rebuild credit by paying bills on time.

Post-Divorce Financial Planning and Estate Planning

This is also a time to work with a financial advisor you trust to update your financial plan to reflect your new circumstances and financial goals. As part of this process, ensure that all of your accounts are titled correctly and that all of your beneficiary designations reflect your current wishes.

Additionally, it’s important to meet with an estate planning attorney and update your: 

  • Will
  • Trusts
  • Powers of attorney
  • Healthcare surrogates

Consider any other estate planning documents or beneficiary designations that dictate what happens to your assets in case of your death or incapacity and adjust them accordingly.

While it may not be easy, work together with your ex-spouse to establish clear financial boundaries in post-divorce relationships, especially when blending families.

Divorce Financial Planning with Children

When children are involved in a divorce, financial planning becomes even more important to ensure their well-being and secure their future. One of the primary considerations is child support, which can vary based on factors like income, custody arrangements, and the needs of the children. 

It's essential to factor in ongoing expenses, such as education, healthcare, and extracurricular activities, and ensure these costs are addressed in the divorce settlement. 

Additionally, long-term financial planning should include setting aside funds for college savings or other future needs. Both parents should also review and update life insurance policies, retirement accounts, and estate planning documents to reflect their children's needs and provide financial security in the event of unforeseen circumstances. 

By carefully considering these factors, you can create a stable financial foundation that supports your children’s needs both now and in the future.

Divorce Planning Over 50: Key Considerations

Divorcing later in life presents unique challenges, such as potential health insurance gaps and the need to carefully divide pensions. 

If you're relying on your spouse's health insurance, be sure to understand what your options are once the divorce is finalized. Many employers offer continuation of coverage through COBRA, but this can be expensive. If you need to explore alternatives, consider individual plans through private insurers, the marketplace, or government programs like Medicaid, if eligible.

When planning a fair division of pensions, consider not only the immediate value of these accounts but also how they will impact your financial stability over time and whether you’ll receive payments over time or a lump sum. 

If you’ll be receiving a lump sum, it’s important to consider how this will fit into your financial plan to ensure you have the income you need to sustain your living needs for the rest of your life. A financial advisor can help you allocate your assets in a way that will support your goals now and into the future.

A Guide to Help on Your Journey to Financial Stability

Divorce is a significant life event, but with thoughtful financial planning and the right support, you can navigate its challenges confidently to ensure a stable and secure future for yourself.

Whether you’re just beginning the process or looking to rebuild after the final settlement, and would like the support of a local financial advisor in Tampa—or online if you're elsewhere across the nation—we’d be happy to help. Reach out to our compassionate team of financial advisors at The Troncoso Group today.